
2 Tim. 2:24-26 (ESV) And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, 25 correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.
1 Peter 3:15 (ESV) but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect
With the assassination of Charlie Kirk ten days ago and so many wanting to take his place, I thought I would make share some Biblical points to help us become as effective as he was in sharing the gospel.
- Don’t be quarrelsome. We need to flavor the conversation the same attitude we want to taste from the other side. Now we may not often get that same attitude back, but Scripture still tells us not to be quarrelsome.
- Be kind to everyone. That means everyone from the kindest person we speak with to the most belligerent. Being kind doesn’t mean we can’t be firm in our position. The Bible simply says we are to show Christ to them.
- We need to be able to teach, to know our subject well enough to express it clearly and succinctly. I often tell my adult Bible classes they need to understand a topic well enough to be able to explain it to others. That’s what it means to be able to teach.
- We need to patiently endure evil. Some people are in a debate or discussion for no other reason than to combat the gospel. They have no intention to hear what we have to say or what the Bible says. They could care less. They are just there to try and stump us or make us look foolish. The best way to handle these folks is let them talk, ask pointed questions, and let them finish. When they see they’re getting nowhere, they will usually move on. When the discussion is in a group or on social media, our intent should be to convince the others watching.
- We are to correct our opponents with gentleness. Many of the debates I find myself engaged in are the result of bad information. Sometimes this is me, and I’ll address that below. When it is our opponent’s mistaken belief, we need to be gentle pointing this out to them sometimes explaining the logic of their mistake or asking them for the evidence they can provide to support their view. So much of the Charlie Kirk discussion/debate is with people who were told he was a fake Christian, racist, misogynist, or hater. His most effective response to this has been to ask for evidence of this. I’ve watched hours of Charlie Kirk’s debates and seen none of the things he is accused of. Often opponents have been given half-truths about a subject or quotes taken out of context and they try to present these as facts. If the conversation is worth pursuing, find the original quote in full and show it to them.
- Our discussions as with our walks with Christ, should be with a heart that honors Him. The old What Would Jesus Do model holds true here. Think of what you’re sharing and how. If it is not with a desire to honor Christ, we’re out of line and should correct yourself. We also need to learn how to say “I don’t know” or even to admit when we’re wrong.
- Last of all, I’d like to mention respect as Peter does. Be respectful. Be quiet and let them speak their piece. In doing so, you’ll earned their attention when it’s your turn to talk. Respect means to treat the other person as you would like to be treated yourself. That’s the golden rule after all:
Matt. 7:12 (ESV) “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”
Why is this important?
I was speaking with some cultists at the Los Angeles County Fair quite a few years ago. After a few minutes, they came closer to hear the discussion I was having with one of their folks because we weren’t shouting. We were having a civil rational discussion. One remarked that I wasn’t yelling but was treating them as equals. My attitude helped in the discussion. They were more open, more willing to share because the discord and contention simply wasn’t present. They were safe to present their views and evidence they used to support them.
In our discussions, we need to do this if for no other reason than to let our opponents know we are thoughtful, reasonable, peaceful, and Christian. It also paves the way for the next Christian they encounter.









